Here is why we need sex education: we need sex education because (some) men are asking for anal sex on the first date. This is fact. If you do not believe it, then I’m afraid, you simply haven’t spoken to enough women in their 20s. We need sex education, because (some) men seem to think sex ends with him ejaculating on your breasts, or in your hair, or in your face. We need sex education because of a practice called ‘seagulling’, a boarding school import (what else?) that has spread to some university halls of residence. It involves a group of guys standing outside a mate’s door while he has sex with a girl, and then bursting in and ejaculating over her, all at once. We need sex education because women are telling me they’re fed up of being told they’re a ‘bitch’ or a ‘dirty little whore’ or a ‘slut’ in bed. That they need to be ‘violated’ or ‘ruined’. We need sex education because I have lost count of the number of times that young women have told me that their boyfriend or sex partner has placed his hands around their neck and tried to choke them during sex.
And that sex education MUST be based on enthusiastic consent.
In part because I seriously doubt that boys past age 4 or 5 will ever be capable of learning to be less self-absorbed when it comes to sex; consequently, trying to teach, say, a teenage boy that their partner’s pleasure must also be attended to may be futile. They’re gonna keep thinking with their dicks; what’s significant about the stuff mentioned above is how obviously consent—i.e., respecting someone else’s humanity and not treating them as an object—does not seem to occur to so many men. That’s why I say age 4 or 5; you’ve got to catch them really early to make their personalities partner-focused, but you can modify their *behaviors* later than that (not that it will necessarily work; but it works more when it’s attempted than when it’s not).
TW: Sexual abuse, abuse
Nearly 200 immigration detainees allege that they were sexually abused while being held at detention centers across the country since 2007, according to government documents obtained by the American Civil Liberties Union.
The documents reveal allegations by detainees in nearly all states that house immigration detention facilities, suggesting widespread sexual abuse within the system.
The ACLU released the information obtained from several agencies, including the Department of Homeland Security, on Wednesday—the same day its Texas chapter filed a lawsuit on behalf of three immigrant women who say they were sexually assaulted while in the custody of Immigration and Customs Enforcement (ICE) at a detention center in Taylor, Texas.
“The fact that these women sought sanctuary in the United States – only to find abuse at the hands of officials they thought would protect them – is wholly inconsistent with America’s self-proclaimed reputation as a beacon of human rights and protector of human dignity,” Lisa Graybill, legal director for the ACLU of Texas, said.